Ke kama'ilio kū'ē'ole - pehea ka'ōlelo?

No ka mahalo i nā mana a pau e hō'ike'ia e ka mea i'ole e ha'i'ia i loko o ia mea, e kōkua i ka mea i'ike'ia e ka po'e psychologists ka nui o nā'ike,'o 90%, ke loa'a mai nā hō'ailona'ole. A he 10% wale nō ke hā'awi iā mākou i nā hua'ōlelo. No ke aha mai kēia hana? No ka'ike'ana o nā kānaka he'oi a'e ka pa'akikī i ka ho'oku'u'ana i ka'ōlelo waha'ole, inā hiki ia'u ke'ōlelo pēlā, ma mua o ka waha. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, i mea waha 'kamaʻilio - keia mea pono olelo, a ua hoi malalo o ko mākou lolo huaolelo, a he umi e hiki ke olelo mai, e manaʻo mākou, a mea e lealea ana hūnā, mai kona interlocutor.

Loa kekahi mea - nonverbal kamaʻilio, artificially hoouna nonverbal lepa 'Oihana wale nō ke hoa, maopopo keia -ʻike manaʻo, malu hana konohiki a me kekahi poe e ae, ka poe i loko o kekahi aoao ai kekahi mea, e hana me ka' oihana psychologists. Akā,'o ka mea āu e'ike nei,'a'ole ia he nui. He nui nā kānaka'ē a'e e hō'ike ana i ko lākou mana'o no'ono'o me ke kōkua'ana i nā hana a me nā mea'ē a'e.

No laila, he aha ke kama'ilio'olu'olu'ole? He aha kona'ano, he aha ka'oihana?

Pono e ho'omana'o'ia ka pa'i'ana o ka hui'ole i nā hanana wale nō a kau'ia: ka lima o ke kuli a me nā lima e ho'omaha ai ma nā'ao'ao, a pēlā aku. He hō'aha nui loa ia o nā hō'ailona e lawe i ka'ike e pili ana i ka mea -'o kēia nā pane a mākou e'ae ai i ka wā e kama'ilio ai me ka mea pili, a me nā hana a me nā hi'ohi'ona, a me ka nui o nā haumāna, a me ka ho'onani'ana i ka leo. 'Ōlelo mākou.

E no'ono'o e no'ono'o i ke'ano o ke kanaka, e hāpai ana i kona mau maka me ka'ōwili'ana i kona mau lehelehe, e'ōlelo ana ua maika'i'o ia i ke ola a ua hau'oli'o ia. Ke mana'o'i'o nei paha'oe i kāna mau'ōlelo a i'ole'oe e loiloi pono i kāna mau hō'ailona waha'ole? Mana'o wau e hilina'i'oe i nā hua'ōlelo āu i ha'i ai ma kahi hope. A he pololei kēia.

Akā,ʻaʻole wale nō ia mea hoihoi 'i ' ole-waha 'kamaʻilio. 'O ka'oia'i'o, aia nō nā hō'ailona like'ole no nā mea a pau a no ka nui loa o nā lāhui. Eia kekahi la'ana, he po'o o ke po'o paha, kahi ulu o nā po'ohiwi -'o ia ka mea e hō'ike ai i ka'ae o ka mea kū'ē a i'ole kona hilahila. Akā, aia nā hō'ailona'ē a'e i ka like'ole o nā po'e'ē a'e, pēlā nō i kā lākou mo'omeheu.

Eia kekahi la'ana, no nā po'e noho o ka'āina'o'Aselani a me nā mea Kepanī ho'i, he mea nui ka rula ma ka ho'ohanohano'ana i ka mea pili -'a'ole e nānā i kona mau maka. E nānā ana ka po'e Kepani i kēlā me kēia wahi - ma kou'ā'ī a i kou mau laulā, akā,'a'ole i kou mau maka. No ka Europa a'Amelika paha,'o kēia'ano palekana o ka'ike'ike'ana,'o ia ho'i, ua ho'ohilahila'ia ka mea hihia, a hūnā paha i kekahi mea, a i'ole e'olu'olu paha i'ole e pili ana i ka hopena ma ke kūkā'ana. A no kēia'ano o nā mo'omeheu he pono e mālama'ia.

Akā, 'ē aʻe' ole-ia hoʻi cues, e like me: dilated na haumana, me ka haalulu lehelehe, pokole o ka hanu consciously hoʻololi 'ana iʻaneʻane hiki ole i. Inā he mea kupanaha ka mea Kepanī, e like me kahi Pākehā, e ho'onui ana nā haumāna a lāua.

A he nīnau hou e ho'oikaika i nā mana'o: no ke aha e pono ai ke'ike a ho'omaopopo pono i nā hō'ailona'ole? 'Ae, ma kahi hapa, hiki iā mākou ke ho'omaopopo pono iā lākou. Eia kekahi la'ana, inā kū ka mea kū ma mua o kāua, me nā lima ma luna o kona mau pūhaka,'o ia ke'ano ko'iko'i. Akā, pono'oe e'ike i kekahi mau hō'ailona ma ke'ano, kūpono'ole, i hiki iā'oe ke ho'ohana i kēia mau mea i kou makemake. Pono kekahi i kēia ma ke kūkā'ana a kū'ai paha i ka kū'ai, a he mea nui paha i ka po'e i makemake'ole e ho'opunipuni'ia.

'O kahi la'ana,'o ka mea kū'ai aku ma nā hana a me ka ho'onui'ana o nā haumāna e'ike ana i ka mea kū'ai i ka mea kū'ai i ka huahana,'o ia ho'i he mea hiki ke ho'onui i ke kumukū'ai. A eia kekahi, inā e li'uli'u nā haumāna a ka mea kū'ai aku, a laila e ho'emi'ia ke kumukū'ai o nā waiwai.
A ho'okahi mea hou a'e. E ho'omana'o i nā hō'ailona waha'ole e pono e nānā'ia i kahi pa'akikī. Eia kekahi la'ana, inā ho'opili ke kanaka i kona ihu -'a'ole'o ia wale nō ke'ano ma'alea. Eia kekahi la'ana, he mea palekana ka pale a he mea pa'akikī iā ia ka hanu'ana.
He mea'epekema nā pale ki'i'ole, a he mea pono ke ho'okokoke a kokoke.