"Kēia wahine," a koke hou e pili ana i na pilikia o ka stereotyping

Pehea pinepine i ola mākou i ka hana me ka stereotypes? Ae, kokoke i kela la, o kela mea keia hora. Ka mea, i loko o ko makou mau manao, ma ko makou ike, ma ke ano o ka hana a me kino i ka - e like me na mea e ae, a ia makou iho. mai ka noho 'ana kamaliʻi He aha hiki mākou e aʻo? Pono pāʻani lākou kuleana. Mākou i haʻi: "He maoli ke kanaka , aole ia i hea," "He wahineʻoiaʻiʻo e mālama mai o lakou iho, no ka hale o kana kane, na keiki" ... a ua loaʻa ia makou iho i ka i kakahiaka nui makahiki i loko o ka loaʻa o ka haole e hoohalike ai ia.

E hoomanao pehea pinepine wale ana ma hope o ka hana lā, e ka pono chores, a nō hana na mea kokoke loa. Ia aole makemake i ke ala i kakahiaka nui i loko o ke kakahiaka nui, iā nō hiamoe, a me ka hoʻomākaukau aina kakahiaka no ka 'ohana a pau, no ka "maoli wahine" no laila,' aʻole ... e hana mākou e lawe i like ka nui me hiki, ke makemake e hoapono ia ia Nekrasov "ana i ka galloping lio", a i ka mea ia manawa, ua pono no e fragile a me ka nö hoʻi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pehea na manawa he nui i lohe - mai ka makuahine-ma-kānāwai, kana kane: he maoli wahine - he akahai a me ka lokomaikai ia, homemakers, i ka mau loa feminine, a no laila, ma luna, a pēlā aku nō ... A ua hoʻomaka e umi i loko o na mea ia e hoohalike. Aia hoʻi, i ke alo o ke kū'ē koi - "e ikaika" a "e nāwaliwali", "aʻo i kū ma luna iho wawae" a "i ma luna o kāna kāne" - mahae ike paka i. Kēia mea ma pono seriously Hoʻoweliweli 'o ia iā mākou neurosis. Ma kaʻino - ka mea, e lawe, e Wāwahi mau ohana i ka wahine alcoholism, i pathological launa. E ka nana aku i ke kahua o nā wāhine i loko o kēia kaiāulu objectively. Ma ka liʻiliʻi loa, ua ho'āʻo.

Inā hiki 100-150 makahiki aku nei, i ka papa kuhikuhiE mea i ka hoʻonaʻauao 'ia' ana o nā keiki, a me ka malama ana o ka hale, akā, e na kuleana i ke kaiāulu kanaka, auhau ia lakou i ma luna o nā wāhine, i ua hoʻemi. Muli o kona kulana ke kue. No ka mea, e manao ia no ia, a aole nae i ka mea a ka "maoli wahine" E e maikaʻi-groomed, hoʻonaʻauao, 'oihana' o hoʻomaʻamaʻa, kuokoa. A me ka mea e pili ana i ka ohana? Pehea pinepine i laila Ua kue napoo ana no hoi? Noke ... E lawe, no ka hana, he kahua kahi o ka ohana o na makua kuaiia hoʻonaʻauao 'ana a me ka' oihana. "Kēia wahine," e koho i ka oihana, e kiʻi i ka palapala puka, e hahai 'epekema. A i loko o kāna kāne o kaʻohana, ma ka mea ku ole, me ka makuwahine i loko o kānāwai hoʻohana i kaʻokoʻa ala o ke ola. No ka mea, o kona "maoli wahine" - o ka kekahi mea o ke keiki, ua hoakaka a pau i kona mau pono, oiai hoopoina ana ia oe iho. He aha ka hana a hiki i ka psyche, ina he kanaka i loaʻa i loko o kekahi kahua o ia cognitive dissonance? It ke aloha. A hiki i maopopo i ka wahine mea ua maoli i manaoia o kona mau hoahanau. A peheaʻenemi, a judgmental 'ia hiki ia - i hana, i loko o ka pā hale, ma ka kindergarten, kahi a mākou e kipaku keiki ... Inā mākou e makaʻu o ko lākou mau pono a pau o a me ka pilikia, i ka easiest ala - e loaʻa iā lākou i loko o' ē aʻe, a hoohewa. "He aha ke ano o ka makuwahine", "e ike ia pehea ua kahikoia mai," "ua makemake e noho ma ka hale," a me "ia mea wale nō i ka hana a me ka manaʻo" - e like me mākou pinepine lohe ai i keia kamaʻilio hoʻowawāʻia ...

Mākou omoʻia nā kanaka i ka stereotypes unconsciously, subconsciously. Akā, inā mākou e wale hiki ke nānā i ia oe iho, i kou uhane - ke hoʻomaopopo pehea mākou manaʻo e pili ana me mākou mea i kaawale mai o na blinders ma luna o ka maka. A ina mākou nō i ka ikaika ke aloha o ke ola, i ka alualu o ka hoʻoponopono hoʻi, mākou e e hiki ke wehe ia. A i ka ike i loko o maoli mea he maoli wahine - o ka kekahi pehea e e hauʻoli a me ka noa i ike. A me ka mea e ole e kekahi i ka kekahi. Ua hele mai i loko o kēia ao, e ola kou - hanana - ola. A mai e he "hemolele mau", "maikaʻi makuahine", "hoolohe kaikamahine" .... He hoʻomaopopo keia, ua hiki ke aʻo i kaʻae iho - a pela i ka 'ē aʻe - like mākou a me ka mea mau.