Mama la i hiki ole oe hilinai i ke kanaka ... Pehea e Makuakane me stereotypes?

Mea pōmaikaʻi, he mea manawa emi o nā kaikamahine i lawe mai i kanaka Pilisetia, a me ka prudish kuʻuna Hawaiʻi. Aka hoi, eia nāʻohana kahi makuwahine a me kupunawahine vying hoʻike i ke kanaka,ʻaʻole hiki ke hilinaʻi i kekahi mea, no ke kanaka i manao no ka ike i ka ua wahine nana wale malamalama lealea. No laila, ina paha ia mea weliweli, a pehea ia stereotypes e pili ana hoohanau ana?

O ka holo ana, i ka manawa i kēia manawa pilikia, pilikia, māpuna. Increasingly, he kanaka no e kā lākou mau koho, e lawe kuleana no nā hana i hana 'ia. No kula o courtship, ka wā kona wahine, kulana kupono paha ma mua o kaʻumi o kona hanauna, a me ka wale laila lokomaikai ae, e noi aku i ka lima o ke kaikamahine i ka hale maikai mai. Koʻikoʻio o ke kumu a me ka mahalo i nā wāhine, i i ua ia e ka ike loea anakahi o ka wā e hiki mai o ka mare a me ka wahine. Akā,'ānō, uaʻakaʻaka ma na mea he nui o na stereotypes. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e hilinai pili kēia ma luna o mākou io inā pilikia ka haumāna, a me - a hiki loa - mai prejudices o ka mua o ka hanauna i loko o vdolblennye poo. People lawe mai i loko o ka'ōnaehana o ka huina hooponopono a me ka hoʻohuoiʻia,ʻoiaʻiʻo, ma mua, i hiki ole oe hilinai i ke kanaka, a me ka lua (keia pili i ka Loaʻaʻia i loko o-kānāwai), i na kaikamahine a pau e nana aku ana i ka aa kala ole eke i loko o ka wā e hiki mai na kahu.

E noho i loko o ka lewa o ka hoʻohuoiʻia a me ka makaʻu mea hiki ia, akā, i ke ano o ke ola? Inā he kaikamahine, mai kona wā kamaliʻi hana i loko o kona poʻo i ke kanaka hiki ole ke hilinaʻi ma kekahi mea, a laila ka mea, e hiki e ke ike i loko o kekahi ikehu hoalawepu ke kanaka? E ka maopopo, a loiloi i kona mau e pono ai, i kona mau manaʻo, i kona maikaʻi ano? A i 'ole ia, e malama ia no elike me ka enemi, me ka hoʻohuoiʻia, a me ka wale e kali ana no ka mea iki' oihana?

E like me kēia psychologists a me ka ohana kino mai ole i kekahi mea e hiki ole hilinai i ke kanaka. Ma ke kue, i kekahi ana nona ma o ka mālama 'ana o ka' ohana a me ka Union, pū kuhikuhi i ka openness a me ka oiaio. 'Aʻole e paulele ana i ka' ē aʻe kanaka, o ka hoʻopuniʻana, ua hoonele ia makou iho i ka loa nui - o ka naau kamailio me ia. Stereotypes ma ka mare, ua hiki wale exacerbate i ka pilikia. I ka mea, kokoke, aohe mea i mea e hiki ole hilinai i ke kanaka. No AiON ke kanaka a me ka kamaiki perepelenaet, a hoʻomākaukau o ka aina awakea, a me ka 'ohana i. loa aku nei rigidly puunaueia nāʻohana ma i ka pelekikena i, haʻohaʻo ai, pehea la e hiki ai i ke keiki kane, e aʻo, e malama aku ia lakou iho, a - ina e pono ai - kana wahine, a me ke keiki. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, aohe mea o kakou e'ōnaehana paleʻea i ka maʻi, ke kīnā? Aiaiiuie, ola au i na ino.

Inā mākou hoʻomaka mai ka loina hooponopono eʻaʻole hiki ke hilinai, mākou e loa e hiki ke kūkulu i ka harmonious pilina me ka mea'ē aʻe kanaka. Manaʻo e pili ana ia: pehea makemake oe haha aku ina oe i puni ike wale i kekahi kumu o ka pilikia a me ka mea pepehi kanaka? Eia naʻe, he koikoi kulana home 'ole? Prejudices e pili ana i hoohanau pelekikena a - e like me ka mea i 'oe hiki ole hilinai i ke kanaka, i nā wāhine i hoʻoholo ai, a e imi i waiwai na kane i na wahine e noho ma ka hale, a hoala mai kā lākou mau keiki, a me ka hoapili ia, e loaʻa i ke ola - complicate wale nō mākou pili. Ka mua ka anu u ma ke alanui i ka Launa Male lokahi i pono ka manao maikai a me ka mehana. Ka mea, e hiki ole me keia - piha - paulele.