Pehea e hiki wawe ka ike i ka manipulation. 7 na hoailona i hana mākou manaʻo

Koke loaa ole ia,ʻaʻole no ka mea a pau keia, e e maʻalahi. Ka mea nui wale nō ma ka 'ōlelo - mālama Track o ko oukou mau manao a me ka naʻau, a me ka mea pono i kekahi aʻo. 'Ike me kou mau pā leo - ia mea he mea nui keʻakeʻa nei ma ka' ōlelo, no ka mea, manao ke hoopiha - e hooki i like hōʻailona ma waena oʻu a me kou manao, ke ae i ka'ē aʻe kanaka manipulator mea oluolu e hookele ai i ke kamailio ana hoʻi ma luna o Track. E pale aku i kēia, mai hana, oe wale pono e nana aku ma hope o lākou iho. Hoomau ana noke. Ma mua ia e e paakiki, oe, e hāʻule i loko o ka manaʻo, akā, me ka mindfulness hana mai.

Akā, ia mea he kumuhana, akā, i kēia lā au makemake e kamailio e pili ana i kekahi manaʻo a me symptoms e kuhikuhi ana i ka manipulation.

Na mea a pau ke hele mai me ka hoao ana. A me ka maikaʻi loa haʻawina o kona mau hewa. Inā e manaʻo i ka mea i lawe ka lanakila o oe, a me ka hoʻoikaika eʻae i ka "keakea" ka pāʻoihana no oe, e ku malie, a noonoo oe naʻauao hoa ana, ka manaʻo kaumaha oe i kena ae la, i ua hana i loko o ia kamailio. E ka hopena, a mai i pani ma luna o ka mea hookahi rake hou aʻe manawa.

Au e helu i kekahi mau hoailona o ka manipulation (i pau) i e e oe i noonoo i ka hihia.

1. hana a he leo

A maopopo hōʻailona e Hōʻike ka manipulation. Inā 'oe u discomfort i ke keakea ole, e mea hiki ia hoi i ka puʻe ia oe, e oe haha aku ke koikoi, nema aku ana a paʻa pakele ai i nā pane.

2. Mai makau e ola mai i ka 'upu'

Ma keia hihia, ke manipulator Nonoi i kou kaukaʻi ma ka manao o kekahi poe. Owai la ka mea makemake, e hoolohe ia i ka mea, he kanaka p', boor komoʻinoʻino, i hoaponoia paulele, a no laila, ma luna? Kekahi.

3. hewa

Ohhh, ka mea, 'o ka punahele liana o manipulators, e hoopii i ke ano o ka hewa. Ka luahi hoʻomaka e e excuses, a holoi mai i ko lakou "kuhihewa" ma nā mea a pau ka naauao a me ka ole nui aoao. Ke algorithm Ua puni hoʻi:

• Pono'āhewa kanaka
• ( 'Oe ke kiola i kekahi tantrum)
• ?????
• E pono ai !!

4. "kaulikeʻole" ana

Kokoke kekahi kamaʻilio, kekahi palapala hiki ke noʻonoʻo me pāʻoihana ke kūkā '. Kēlā me kēiaʻaoʻao i kona mau kumu, a me nā kumu ma lalo i ka mea, ae e kakauinoa i ka aelike. No laila, i ka lākiō "lanakila ana i '- uku" E ole ek'ki i kaʻaoʻao o ka papa. Inā e manaʻo ana oe e losing oi ma mua o ka waiwai - e haʻalele aku!

5. Kwai kuleana

Inā 'oe e ike no ia i ke kuleana no ka olelo hooholo-ana, no kekahi hana mea ma luna o oe ... e makaala! IeAUPIIe, IAa IO mākou e mai ua aie i ka kekahi, a ua lawe i nā hoʻoholo i loko o ka weli. No laila, no ke aha la me kēia hana oe Pono e hana i kekahi olelo hooholo i keia manawa? No scary ua hui me ka illusion o ka nele o ka manawa.

6. ka interviewee haawi i ka helehelena o ka nele o ka manawa

Mālama nui! ka nele o ka manawa pinepine - like ka illusion. E ka wanaao ae. Kekahi paha mau minuke i hana kūlana e pāʻani. Manaʻo a malie iho la. He pinepine e hiki ke hoopanee i ka olelo hooholo, a hana i kekahi mau lā.

7. Infantile naoh

A maopopo hoailona. Kahea ana, aggression, huhū ... Mai Mai hopohopo, ia mea no hoi e hiki manipulation. Alohaʻia i kaʻoluʻolu o, a noho mālie.

Once, ma ke kapa aku, oe e hai i kekahi o na makaukau no, o ka mea aʻu i olelo ai, triggered ke kāhea a me kou manaʻo: Mai Mai manipulate mai iaʻu?

Pōmaikaʻi, a me ka mai e lilo makaʻala!