'O ke kanaka i'oi aku ma mua o ka hoaaloha

I keia la, e pili ana i ke aloha ma waena o ke kanaka a me ka wahine arguing ka hailona. 'O kēia mana'o i waena o nā po'e'oko'a like'ole he mea pili. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pinepine me ka wahine, ua'oi aku ke'ano o ke kanaka ma mua o ka hoaaloha. 'O ko lākou pilina ma waho mai he mea weliweli a weliweli. He aha ka mea e hana ai nā kānaka i kēlā'ano'ano like'ole?

'O ka mana'o o ka "aloha"

He kāne like'ole nā kāne a me nā wāhine ma kēia hua'ōlelo. 'O nā kānaka i'oi aku ka nāwaliwali e nānā i ko lākou mau hoaaloha e like me ka po'e e hiki ke hilina'i loa'ia, kūkākūkā a kūkākūkā i nā kumuhana like'ole. No ka wahine ikaika,'o ka hoaaloha'oi loa ke kanaka hiki ke hana. 'A'ole hiki i nā kānaka ke kūkākūkā no nā hola ma kahi noho. Akā, e'ike'oe iā lākou ma hope o ka mea e kama'ilio nei lākou i nā hopena o ka pā'ani pôpeku. Ua'ike mākou a pau i nā'ano hilina'i nui e ho'oikaika i ko mākou'ike. Loa'a ka pilina ma waena o nā'ano'oko'a like'ole inā paha mākou makemake a'a'ole paha.

No ke aha mākou e'imi nei i kahi hoaaloha o ka wahine'ē?

'O kekahi mea maika'i loa, he kanaka e ho'ā'o ai e hoaaloha me kekahi kaikamahine ma'a'ole no kona kaiaulu. Akā, e ho'ā'o ana nā wāhine e loa'a he hoaaloha ma ka'oihana. Hele lākou i ona lā i ka wā o ka ho'omaha a ha'i i ko lākou mau'ike. Hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea'oi a'e ma mua o ka hoaaloha. Ke ho'omaopopo'ia ka pilina ma waena o nā pilina, aia i loko o ka po'e hui o lākou he mau'ohana kanaka. Ma kekahi mau paila e ho'okumu'ia ai ka paepae i kekahi mau kumu, a laila ho'omaka nā hoa e nānā aku i nā hoaaloha e kūkākūkā me lākou. 'O ka manawa kēia e pili ana i nā'ike a me nā mana'o, nā hana'ino a me nā mea'ē a'e. Loa'a'ole nā hoaaloha he nui. Ma ke'ano he kaulike, aia nā hoa hele me lākou he mea'olu'olu ke ho'olimalima manawa. Akā,'o ka mea āu e wehe ai i kou'uhane, ho'okahi wale nō. Man mea pinepine paʻakikī, e hai aku i kana wahine, i ka mea i holoʻokoʻa i hele mai ma kaʻaʻahuʻoluʻolu mau makamaka, a i kā lākou mau aikane pili oki, e ka naita aku ia ia e like me ma mua. Akā, e lawe maika'i loa ka wahine. E hā'awi mau'o ia a me ka'aha kūkā i ka no'ono'o, a kāko'o i ke'ano. Ke ho'ā'o nā kānaka e'imi i kahi puka komo, e loa'a i ke'ano o kekahi'ano kūlana'ano'ē a'e. 'O kēia ka mea i hānau'ia ai ka pilina maoli. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea pa'akikī i nā kāne ke kūkā i ko lākou mau pilikia me ko lākou mau makamaka, a'a'ole lākou e nāwaliwali i ko lākou mau maka. Pēlā lākou e hele ai i kā lākou mau kaikamāhine. Akā ma'ane'i, pono'oe e no'ono'o pono e hele'ole i kēlā laina, ma mua o ka mea i lilo ai'o ia ma mua o ka hoaaloha. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea ma'alahi loa ka hao'ana i nā pili, a ua'oi aku ka pa'akikī e kūkulu hou iā lākou.

E hiki anei i ka pilina maika'i?

I kēia mau lā, he ko'iko'i kēlā'ano. 'A'ole pono nā kānaka ke hoaaloha wale nō i ke kāne. Pono lākou e lilo i po'e pono. 'O nā pilikino āpau e kū ho'okahi. Kekahi e lilo mau hoa a me ka ole haha aku moe makemake, oiai kekahi poe e,ʻaʻole e hiki iā Makuakane me ia. Alaila, lilo ke kane no ka wahine i oi aku mamua o ka hoaaloha. Ua hau'oli nā wāhine i ka ho'okumu'ana i ka pilikino, akā'o nā kānaka ma kēia mea, ua'ano kānalua. Ma nā hihia, pono ka pilina ma ke'ano. 'O kekahi nīnau,'a'ole i'ike nā kānaka a pau e hana i kēia. Akā, hiki iā'oe ke'ōlelo pono e aloha'ia ka pilina. He aha ke kāne e like me kāu hoaaloha -'a'ohe mea nui loa,'o ka mea nui'o ia'o ia'oia'i'o a hilina'i. A i ko mākou mau wā, he laulā kēlā po'e.