He hakakā - he inevitability? Pehea e pale kāna hana e lawelawe

No laila, e ka kamailio e pili ana i ke kumu o ka hakakā i ala mai ma waena o kanaka? Ua oiaio mea he inevitable hopena o kekahi pilina a aia no kekahi poe i hiki ke hoomalu ia lakou iho mai e kue wahi, i hiki? A ina he mea kekahi, i moe lākou mau mea huna?

Ua pono, no ka pane ana i kēia mau nīnau mea i oluolu i ka loaʻa. Oi loa e manao i ka mea ana mākou ola i kēia lā i loko o ka au o perennial scandals a me misunderstandings. Eia naʻe, a hiki i keia manawa, e hiki ke aʻo i ka pāʻana i ko lakou ola, a me ia, a me ka nele o ka mea keʻakeʻa.

He hoowahawaha loa - ka mea, Aloha ...

I hoʻomaka me, i ka puke wehewehe'ōlelo hāʻawi iā mākou i ka pālua manaʻo o kēia kŰia. Penei, e like me ke ano mua, i ka hakakā - he ikaika mea hōʻemi i loko o ka pilina ma waena o kanaka. Pinepine, ma hope o ia i ka wā o ke kue ana ua manao manaʻoe hōʻeha, kena ae la ia e olelo kōmike a misunderstanding. Ka lua o ka hoohalike ana hoi, heluhelu i ka hakakā - i noho i loko o ka hoala leo, hoʻohana'ōlelo hōʻinoʻana a me ka olelo hooweliweli.

Inā e ike, alaila, nā wale nō, he oiaio ia mau mea. Eia naʻe, i loko o mākou hihia, oi nui ka mea, o ka mea mua hoakaka, no ka mea, i loko o ka mea, ke moe i ke kumu nui hoʻoweliweli 'ana o nei paha. Oia, he hoʻomaoe hou akulaʻo o ka io mea i koe i koe ma hope o ke kaua, a aole e ae i ka pili, e hoʻomōhala maʻamau.

No ke aha la e poʻe kaua?

I ka mea, a pau ka loa mea. I ka oiaio o ua kanaka a pau i kekahi mau manao ma luna o ka honua. Nolaila, i mea e pono ai kekahi, a hiki i ka lua o ka lōʻihi hiki e unacceptable. Keia rula underlies loa scandals. Eia naʻe, loaʻa nō nā aʻe i lawe mai kanaka i ka mea pepehi wahi. No kekahi laʻana:

• A eia i stress hoʻonāwaliwali ka'emi nenoaiu, i mea aha kanaka lilo loa paʻakikī, e kū lākou Emotions. Ma ia wahi, i hiki, a hiki e lilo i kekahi mea uuku stimulus i kumu no ka recrimination.
• ʻino hikiwawe. I kekahi manawa ma waena o ke kanaka ai ka haohao ana wale no o ka mea i kekahi o na hoa paio hiki ole hiki wawe ka wehewehe ana i ko lakou wahi o ka Hawaii. Ke kumu no ka mea hikiwawe a hewa ka hoʻonaʻauao.
• Mea naʻau pepeiao kuli - o kekahi kūikawā ololi i loko o ka pilina. No laila, ina he kanaka i kūpono nele i ka maopopo 'ē kanaka, a laila,ʻaʻohe i kekahi, e makemake, e kamaʻilio pū me ia maʻamau.

Pehea e pale nei paha?

Auwe, i keia la i ka hakakā hoa - ka ia maʻamau mea, e like, e olelo oukou, e hele ana i ka hale kūʻai i ka berena. A me ka inoino, akā, i kāna hana, ua kokoke pau kanaka ma ka honua nei, nānā 'ole o ko lākou hoohanau a me ka lāhui. Naʻe, i kēia 'aʻole i manaʻo i nā scandals, a mai ole e käpae'. I aku o ka lanakila, aia nō he mau mea kōkua i ke emi i ka manawa o kāna hana e lawelawe nui a hiki i ka palena iki. A me ka mea, e like penei:

1. Pau ana e ike i kona hoa i ka enemi. Kēia kūlana 'ano ua ālai alakai i ka maʻamauʻano a me ka e akoakoa ai i ka kalaiaina mea.
2. Ia mea,ʻaʻole e pono mau'āhewa 'ē aʻe, a kuhikuhi mai i ko lakou hewa. Ia mea i kekahi mea - e haawi launa'ōlelo aʻo, a me ka loa kekahi - e hoopaa i ka hainā.
3. Mua oe e olelo aku i kekahi mea, e kali oe i kekahi mau kekona. Kēia, e ae aku kaʻoi loa e hana i ka manaʻo, akā, i kekahi wahi o ka pohu huhu oloko.
4. E ka maopopo i kou hoapili ia mea au i lohe. Oia i kokoke e hiki aku, e kamaʻilio pū ma luna o like hua'ōlelo, no laila, i ke kamailio ana, e e mālama 'ia i loko o ka oi rosy.
5. Pale'ōlelo hōʻinoʻana. Kekahiʻano o hiki ke pau me ka hoʻohana o expletives a me ka hooulu ana i na leo. E manaoio mai iaʻu, i ke kanaka i emi nasty lohe i loko o kona helu wahi, ke kue subsides wikiwiki a me ka smoother.