Pehea e hele aku, mai ka hale o ko lakou mau makua? psychologist ka aʻo

E like me ka mea ulu mua kanaka hoʻomaka e moe ana i ka kuokoa ola. Makua noonoo a me ka malama e huhūʻoukou iā i ole pela oluolu. Eia hou, e nana i ka hookahi makahiki, ka mea i alakai loa kaʻeleu ola, ui kanaka i increasingly haʻohaʻo ai, pehea e ka makua hale haʻalele.

ike oe ia oe iho

He nui nā kanaka kahaha pehea e hele aku, mai o ka hale, e hahai ana i ke kumu hoohalike o kona mau hoa, a me stereotyped manaʻo. Akā, ma mua e hele ana i loko o hana, manaʻo e pili ana paha oe anei e makemake ia. Oe i ke hoʻomaopopo i nā kēia mau mea a pau:

• wale oe, e ola (o ka papa, ina oe e ole e noho i loko o kekahi keʻena kaʻana me ka hoa a nui'ē aʻe). Traditional kamailio, e noho kiai ana kīwī, e e loaʻa iāʻoe kaʻohana o ka aina awakea.
• Oe e i ka uku no ka ole wale hale noho, akā, i ka ai, i kou niho 'ikamu, ke kapa a me ka oi. Ua oe nae lawa no keia?
• A pau i ka ukana o ka hale hopohopo a me ka hina ana ma luna o kou mau poohiwi. Mua oe i haʻalele i ka hale, e pono e ike ina paha oe e hiki ke hoʻoponopono maʻamau o hana. Maemae, holoi, kalua - a pau e i ka hana i ko lakou iho.

Inā ke kālā no nā ole pilikia, a me ka wahi lulu nīnūnē oe e mai makau, e hiki loa manaʻo e pili ana pehea e noho kū kaʻawale.

E kamailio pu me na makua

Mua oe i haʻalele i ka hale, e pono e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻokolokolo pono kūkākūkā me nā mea a pau 'ohana. No keia hanana, e pono hoomakaukau e akahele, a hoʻomaʻa oe iho a hiki i ka mea i kou Initiative hiki ke ike negatively. noho kōmi'ōkuhi E e kekahi e like me keia:

• E hoʻomaka, pehea ka nui o kou aloha i kou 'ohana, a pehea mea nui ia oe mehana a me ka ikaika pili hai mai ia makou.
• Next, e ne i ka mea ia oe i ka makua, i mea ole pono i ka ukana lākou i wae.
• E ho'āʻo e lawe mai i nā manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē i loko o lākou ka lokomaikaʻiʻia mai. No kekahi laʻana, 'oe ua loaʻa i ka puu, a me' oe hiki ke lawe mālama ana oe ma ka hale.
• Wehewehe makuahine, i kou haalele i ka hale - ia, aole ia e uhaʻi i PilinaʻOhana. I hai mua ia e oe, e pinepine ike.
• Maoli ai, ka mea i pono, e haawi aku i ka papa i kēlā me kēia no ka 'ohana.

Pehea e hoomakaukau i na makua no lākou neʻe aku?

I ka i ana "makemake au e haʻalele i ka hale!" a Ekahi i kona lima ma luna o ka papaʻaina - keia mea no ka hewa olelo hooholo. E kau iho i loko o ka ohana, e maopopo pehea ia mea paakiki eʻae i kēia kulana. E hoomakaukau kokoke i kona neʻe aku, e hiki ke hana i nā kēia:

• E lilo aneiai kanaka. Holoi, a me ka hao i kona mau mea a pau. E kiʻiʻoe iāʻoe iho i loko o kou lumi a hiki kukeʻana i kaʻai. Mua, ke kaumaha e wehe mai o kā lākou mauʻohana, a me ka lua, e lilo ai i ko lakou kuokoa.
• E ho'āʻo i ka pana aku au i emi manawa ma ka home. E ho'āʻo i kekahi manawa e noho i ka po me ka hoa. Inā 'oe e hele ai i kekahi noi no ka pōkole pāʻoihana huakai a lealea, eʻoiaʻiʻo e ae.
• Iloko o ka ohana Kūkākūkā o casually reminisce e pili ana i keia manawa, e noho ana ma luna o lākou iho i ko lakou mau hoa.

noi no ke kōkua

Makua loa ikepili koʻikoʻi i ka wā i kā lākou keiki i haʻalele i ka hale. A hiki ina ka mea, he 20, 30 a me ka nui me 40 makahiki, ka mea makemake i ka haawi ia ia i kaʻu mea i aloha ai, a lawe mālama o nā hiki aoao. No laila, ho'āʻo like ka nui me ka hiki, e'ōlohelohe i ka kŰia o kou oni ana. No ka laʻana, e noi i ke kōkua o ka hoahanau. Kēia paha e ka huli o ka hale, hoʻoponopono, hale hoʻoponoponoʻana o Kamehameha. Paha i kekahi kālā kōkua mai kā lākou mau mākua hiki ke lawe i ka makana i kou hou ola.

Eia naʻe, nā mākua i kekahi manawa, ho'āʻo e malama i na keiki ma ka hale, blackmailing lākou ke kālā no. Aia He He confrontation: na keiki e ho'āʻo ana e hoao i kekahi mea, akā, e mai mau e pau pono. Inā 'oe e ole ka paulele i loko o kā lākou hana, e uhi i ka liʻiliʻi loa o ka palena iki lilo, e ka hailonaʻana i ka oni ana.

Where e haʻalele i ka hale

Ka wā a pauʻaha hui pilikia i Wehewehe i nā hāʻina, ia ka manawa, e hooholo i ka wahi o ka wā e hiki mai noho. O ka holo ana, ke easiest ala no ka poe i keiki kanaka pono haʻalele kula. Na ka papa kuhikuhiE mea - mea, e koho i ke kulanui pono i loko o kekahi kauhale, a ua hoʻonā i ka kekahi mau makahiki i ka pilikia o ka hale (hokele kaʻahele).

He kūʻai i kou mau keʻena mea kākaʻikahi i loaʻa i ka ui kanaka. A me ka apana hiki lanakila ole a pau. Inā 'oe e manao, e lawe aku i ko lakou mau wahi i noho ai, akā, na dala i ole lawa, ho'āʻo no ke kōkua' ana me kekahi o kona mau hoa. Naʻe ka mea, e e aho e hoʻoponopono i kālā nīnūnē, e like me maʻalahi e kūkulu i ka ola, e hoonohonoho lealea.

Inā 'oe i pilikia a me ke kālā, akā, kuokoa ola - keia o kou moe, e ho'āʻo e akahele ninaninau i ke kahua, e imi i ka hana. No ka laʻana, ma ka Holiday kau, he nui ainoeieou a me nā hokele kaumaha? Aiaiiuie hana i ka hoʻolako 'ia o ka noho. Eia naʻe, no ka mea, ia oe, e loa paha i ke neʻe i kekahi kulanakauhale, akā, ka mea e ae oe e oi nui aku ka mahina i ka olioli a me drawbacks o ke kuokoa ola.

Inā ke kālā, a me ka manao lokahi ka naʻauao i ka mea a pau pono, he uuku. Ana hoʻohālike no ke koho o ka hale e ia mau: ke koke i ka makua ka hale, a me ka pono wahi i pili ai i kou hana wahi.

Kōkua no nā mākua

I kekahi manawa na makua lilo i maoli pōʻino ina ke keikikane a ke kaikamahine a haʻalele i ka hale. Kekahi hāmauʻike piʻi i kēia pilikia, a me ka KoʻOlau hoʻomaka e blackmail i ke keiki mea paa he kanaka makua, a me ka hoino aku ia ia no kona loneliness. No laila, e aʻo aku ai iā mau mākua, e hoole i kona wa opiopio. Heʻoiaʻiʻo oe ua hookaawale mua ae maximalism, e moe no 'oihana e piʻi like, a me ka hanaia'na hoi o kona ohana iho. E hoolaulea ia e kūkulu i ka pilina ma nui maʻalahi me ka ae o ka makua hooponopono. Eia hou, i ke kanaka pono mau ia i kekahi manawa no ka hoʻoponopono-kō. Inā e nakinaki kā lākou poʻe keiki iā ia, e aa aku e hana ia kona olioli ole. Ma neia hope aku ka mea, e kauoha aku oe no ka mea a pau kā lākou inā 'aʻole'.

ka hopena

Pehea e hele aku, mai kona home a me ka noho kū kaʻawale? He He ninau paakiki a pono he kanaka hiki mai. E e aho no ka opiopio kanaka mai kōna mauʻohana, a he kaikaina a me koʻu kaikuwahine no hoi mai. Akā, aha, inā 'oe makemake e ka wale oluolu o kona mau makua? O ka holo ana, ia aole e nakinaki oe ia ia no ke ola. Oe wale Pono e hōʻike nui pā lonoaʻili, a me ka naauao. Kou mau mākua, e wale nō e pomaikai ināʻoe e loaʻa i kaʻohana ikaika a me ka lokomaikai, hilinaʻi mau hoaaloha, a me ka hiki pomaikai.